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Getting together with another person and creating a shared live is a beautiful thing, but it can also be messy and complicated business. Along the way, there are lessons to be learned, challenges to navigate, and bumps in the road that can knock us off course if we aren’t really careful.
There are certain relationship mistakes that so many of us are guilty of, and having a little understanding of them can help us to avoid the problems before they happen to us.
Here are a few of the relationship mistakes that you’ll want to steer clear of…
Taking your partner for granted
After the honeymoon period that goes hand in hand with almost every relationship, we often settle into a comfortable routine. Often, this is a really positive thing and it can be much more meaningful and life-affirming than the fireworks you experience in the early days. Too often though, we can take this too far and end up taking our partners for granted.
We just know that they’ll be there when we get home from work, with dinner bubbling away on the stove, and its loses the initial appeal that it used to have. Ask yourself, honestly, whether you’re guilty of this. If you are, it might be time to show them how much you care, and how much you appreciate them being a part of your life.
Letting issues bubble away beneath the surface
If you’re anything me, then you’re all for a quiet life. You hate confrontation, and the last thing that you want to find yourself tied up in are big, explosive arguments with your other half. But sometimes, arguing can actually be good for your relationship.
Disagreements along the way are part and parcel of your love journey, and if you’re not having them, it’s likely that there are issues that are not being addressed. If left for too long, these can cause the kind of toxic rows where you’ll end up saying things that you don’t mean and will ultimately regret.
Breaking trust by sharing secrets with friends and family
When you get into a serious and committed relationship, it’s important that you maintain your relationships with your closest friends and family. But do remember that whilst you may be happy to share your own secrets, being in a relationship means that there are new boundaries that you need to honour.
It’s not wise to share with anyone the fact that he hates his job and really can’t stand his boss, or the fact this his sister is thinking about divorcing her husband. Some things need to be kept between the two or you.
No partnership is perfect, and making a few relationship mistakes along the way is par for the course. We’re all only human, after all. But being mindful of the traps that you can fall into that can impact your happiness can allow you to be much more intentional and mindful of your partner’s needs.
Have you made any of these relationship mistakes in the past?