Navigating Single Life & Dating In The Modern World

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There’s No Shame In No Strings Dating

There’s No Shame In No Strings Dating

Sometimes, as a singleton, you’ll reach a stage in your life where you’re ready to settle down. You’re serious about finding a long-term partner to share your life with, and you decide that you’re done with dates that end up going nowhere, or short relationships […]

Why You Should Try Online Dating This Weekend

Why You Should Try Online Dating This Weekend

Have you been single for a little longer than you’d have liked? Do you know that it’s probably time to get back in the dating game, but feel a little nervous to go ahead and take the plunge? And have you often thought about trying […]

How To Navigate Older Dating With Joy & Ease

How To Navigate Older Dating With Joy & Ease

There’s no denying that as you start to get a little older, the dating game changes and evolves. The things that you cared about when you were twenties no longer seem to be as important to you, and as your life has taken its own twists and turns, you no doubt have new requirements for potential partners that never used to cross your mind.

It can be daunting when you’re just getting started with dating again, but you should also keep in mind that it can be fun and hugely rewarding. I want to help you to really get the most out of it, and so here is my best advice for navigating older dating with joy and ease…

Don’t be scared of dating sites

Think that dating sites are only suitable for the younger generation? Think again! There are many quality sites out there that cater to an older crowd, including Older Dating. They can be a fantastic platform for meeting other people with similar interests, especially if you have a busy life with work, play, or other commitments.

Of course, it’s important that you consider your personal safety. Never share too much about your personal circumstances, such as exactly where you live, but remember as well that these sites can be perfectly safe as long as you exercise a little caution.

Don’t feel that you need to hide your past

When it comes to senior dating, it’s safe to say that many people will have a little baggage under their belts. You might have experienced a few divorces along the way, and you may well have children and grandchildren who are a big part of your life. If this is the case, embrace it!

Be upfront about where your priorities are, and the kind of relationship that you’re hoping to form. A little communication can go a long way, and will help you to ensure that you’re focusing your time on the kind of people who are going to be a great match for you.

Treat yourself so you’re felling your very best

It’s easy to fall into a routine, and end up wearing the same old clothes and the same old make up every single day. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, and it’s also important to mention that you should never feel like you have to change yourself for a potential romantic partner.

At the same time though, treating yourself could really boost your confidence and allow you to break into  the world of dating feeling like a million dollars. Make an appointment with your hairdresser, treat yourself to a new item of clothing, or get out those earrings that you usually save for special occasions. You deserve to feel your very best as you enter this new chapter in your life!

Have you experienced senior dating? What tips and advice would you share with people who are thinking about giving it a go themselves? I’d love to hear about your experiences in the comments section below!

The First Date Grooming Guide

The First Date Grooming Guide

Looking your best is a part of the dating process that can make sure you feel confident, comfortable, and ready to go out there and get to know people a little bit better. If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while though, […]

The Reality Of Managing Your Finances As A Single Person

The Reality Of Managing Your Finances As A Single Person

There are a lot of challenges that life throws in your direction when you happen to be single… There are the parties to navigate on your own, the questions to field from well-meaning relatives, and there’s also the important (but definitely less discussed) issue of […]

5 Things You Need To Stop Saying To Single People

5 Things You Need To Stop Saying To Single People

Once of the most frustrating things about being single – even if you’re happily uncoupled and have no immediate desire to get into the dating game and meet someone special – is the fact that every single person you meet seems to have an opinion, and advice to share with you.

They might be well meaning, but let’s be honest here… They can also be seriously annoying, and in no way helpful. Here are five things that you need to stop saying to single people.

“The right one will come along when you’re least expecting it”

Ahh, the cliche that single people hear on the regular! It’s a nice thought, and it’s one that plenty of people but into it. But I also believe that it can actually be quite damaging. In an ideal world, of course love would come easily. But this isn’t an ideal world, and this often just doesn’t happen.

Why this one really frustrates me is that it leads to people feeling guilty or uncomfortable about deciding that they’re going to proactively start looking for a loving and lasting relationship. If you want to start dating, and you want to take the bull by the horns and make it happen, then there’s absolutely no shame in that. For a further explanation of why this is something you should stop saying to single people, check out this great piece from Bolde.

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“You don’t know how lucky you are!”

This one is usually the preface of a rant about how annoying someone’s partner is, and how they miss their single life. You’ll hear stories of socks left on the bathroom floor, crumbs left in the butter tray, and never getting a good night’s sleep thanks to their other half snoring like a bear.

When a conversation starts with this sentence, you’re about to be objected to a long and boring rant that’s entirely about their own circumstances. Sorry, but we all know that it’s true. And to us single people, it also stinks of not knowing how lucky you really are. This is a biggie that you really need to stop saying to single people.

“Have you thought about signing up to one of those dating apps?”

Dating apps are hardly new, and us single people are more than aware that they exist. In fact, one of the UK’s biggest dating sites. Match.com, boasts over 3 million registered users. Many of us are already using them – perhaps unsuccessfully, in some cases – and we don’t really need to be reminded that they’re an option.

So yes, we’ve thought about signing up for them. But maybe we’ve decided that we’ve got other priorities in our lives right now and so dating isn’t a key objective, or perhaps we just want to discuss our dating adventures with anyone who happens to ask about. At the end of the day, dating can be quite a private thing, and we probably don’t want advice that we didn’t ask for.

“So how’s your love life right now?”

If you’re a singleton who’s visiting family at Christmas, or you’ve bumped into an old friend at the pub, then this is something that you’re almost definitely going to hear. The reality is that we might just not want to talk about it. It would be frowned upon for us to ask you about the state of your marriage, so why should things be any different when it’s the other way around?

The bottom line here is that if a single person in your life wants you to know about their dating escapades, they’ll tell you. But please don’t pressure them into feeling like they have to share all the ins and outs.

“I know someone who would be just perfect for you…”

Personally, I’m not completely shut off to the idea of dating a friend of a friend. In many ways, it’s the ideal scenario. But what people usually mean when they say this is ‘I know someone who is also single’. More often than not, they’ve given to thought to whether the two of you may have things in common, or whether you would be compatible.

Again, it also assumes that we aren’t happy with our single status, and that we’re desperately trying to meet a partner, which just isn’t always the case.

We know that you probably do mean well. We know that you might just be trying to make pleasant conversation, or just help us out. But considering the things that you really should stop saying to single people would be doing us a huge favour!

Are there any additional things that you’d add to this list? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts!

 

How To Get Out Of Your Dating Rut

How To Get Out Of Your Dating Rut

Are you stuck in a bit of a dating rut? I’ve been there. You’re frequenting the same old dating apps, meeting the same kind of people over and over again, and you’re turning up to the same bars and restaurants, week after week, in the […]

Where To Turn To For Meaningful Relationship Advice

Where To Turn To For Meaningful Relationship Advice

Sometimes, the last thing that we want to do is sit and listen to unsolicited dating and relationship advice from people who think they know what’s best for us, but don’t really understand what we’re dealing with. Sometimes though, we really could benefit from a […]

Dating In Your 30s – Why It’s Different

Dating In Your 30s – Why It’s Different

If you’re dating in your 30s, then you’ll know it often feels like a completely different kettle of fish. You’re not alone, either… research shows that here in the UK, we’re settling down with a partner at a much older age than in previous generations.

Dating in your 20s might have been full of reckless abandon, but things definitely shift as you start to get a little bit older.

That doesn’t have to be a bad thing. But it’s important to know what you can expect, and how your own desires, needs, and behaviours are likely to change. Here’s why dating in your 30s is totally different…

You know your own mind and exactly what you want

By now, you’ve got a stronger sense of self, and you have no doubts about what it really is that you’re looking for. You’re less likely to be willing to compromise, and you won’t waste your time on things that you know won’t ultimately give you what you want. Whilst your 2os were about experimenting, you don’t feel like you have to try new things anymore.

Depending on how you look at it, this can be a good thing or a bad thing. It means that you’re less likely to waste your time, or go down a path that will lead to nowhere. But do be mindful of becoming so stuck in your ways that you miss out on potentially meaningful experiences. Every now and again, step back and consider whether you might be a little too stuck in your ways.

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Your dates are likely to have more ‘baggage’

This might not be the most comfortable thing to discuss, but if you’re dating in your 30s, you’re likely to know that this is true. The people you meet are likely to have several failed relationships under the belts. They might be divorced, and they might also have children. Of course, these things can really change the dynamic of any developing relationship.

Remember though that you have a past too, and it doesn’t necessarily have to define who you are. If someone having a child is a deal breaker for you, then that’s completely fine. But you do need to be aware that this is often the reality of dating in your 30s, and you might be really narrowing down your options.

You’re less willing to just ‘see how things go’

If you’re not sure about someone when you’re in your 20s, you’re often willing to continue to go on a few dates and see how things work out. You’re in no rush, and getting into a committed relationship isn’t your key priority.

As you get a little older though, you’re more conscious of wasting your time. You know what you ultimately want – whether that be cohabiting, marriage, kids, or something else – and you’ve come to recognise that if something has little potential to go in that direction, then there’s no point in pursuing it. Doing this doesn’t mean you’re ruthless or cold. It just means that you won’t compromise on the life that you want.

You realise that you need to put yourself in the driving seat

When you’re younger, you’re happy to just see how things go when it comes to dating. You might meet someone in a bar who takes your fancy, or you might decide that you’ll casually sign up to a few dating apps to see what all the fuss is about.

In your 30s, you often get much more proactive. You use dating apps not just to see what all the fuss is about, but because you’ve got a free night next week, and you want to go on a date with someone who could be your future partner. You stop waiting for things to fall into place, and you start making things happen.

Dating in your 30s can seem much more serious, but never forget that it should always be fun and rewarding. It’s what you make it, and a positive mindset can really go a long way.

The UK Dating Podcasts That I Can’t Get Enough Of

The UK Dating Podcasts That I Can’t Get Enough Of

I was late to the party when it came to podcasts. Between tuning into audiobooks and a handful of my favourite YouTubers, I thought that I had more than enough on my digital plate to keep me entertained and informed. But then I got sucked […]